Putting yourself out there

When you like someone, or think you like them, what should you do?

Do you go for it and put yourself out there, ie let them know that you like them – not necessarily by saying “I like you” or something but by asking them out for a drink, say?

What have you got to lose, you say to yourself? Nothing I suppose except you have put yourself in prime position to be turned down, ignored, leaving you feeling embarrassed, hurt, taking you right back to the crappiest moments of the last year.

Maybe I’m too desperate to find somebody. Maybe I should just leave it and be me and do things that make me happy. But I’m doing that anyway. Why shouldn’t I think about having someone to think about. To message, to chat with, to snuggle up on the sofa with or go out for drinks, or go to the cinema with. Its not like I want marriage or anything. God forbid! Not sure I could get married again at all. Just thinking about weddings makes my heart feel heavy. I know I’m happier now and I don’t want to be with Ben but it really hurt, being told that he didn’t want me anymore and he was with someone else.

Maybe I’m just setting myself up for disappointment.

What do you think?

Please comment so I know I'm not alone out here!

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