Self Acceptance

Last night I saw a video on Facebook where a lady took off all her clothes down to her underwear, blindfolded herself and then stood in the middle of a busy street with a sign that said something about body issues and that all bodies were valuable and if you agree you should take one of the pens she was holding in her hands and draw a heart anywhere on her body. The video is so moving as she didn’t get any abuse or ridicule – people just took pens and wrote things like “you are awesome” and other lovely things and lots of hearts on her.
This made me think of self acceptance – not just bodily but other aspects of ourselves. I feel like I am on a bit of a journey of self acceptance (I hate that phrase “I’m on a journey” – so cliche and like something out of X Factor, but it is true) since my marriage ended last December. I spent a lot of time blaming myself, thinking that there must be something wrong with me. I spent a lot of time worrying and fearing the future. I still spend a lot of time worrying that I will be on my own forever, but I am slowly coming to the conclusion that that might not be so bad. After all, I’m pretty awesome! And I wouldn’t BE on my own as I have my friends. So here is my list of awesomeness. I think we should all stop and do this sometimes. We are much better than we give ourselves credit for.
Abi’s Awesome List:
  1. I got through a very painful breakup and have managed to stay friendly with my ex even though the circumstances could have meant I hated him and his new partner with a passion. But I don’t. And that feels good!
  2. Which makes me a pretty strong person
  3. I moved into my flat and made it nice – made it “me”
  4. I have learned to cook
  5. I am master of my own household – I was always accused of never helping with the housework when I lived with Ben but being on my own obviously I don’t have a choice. Yes, sometimes the washing up is left for the night until I get back from work the next day but that’s my choice. When stuff really needs doing I do it!
  6. I am super-organised
  7. I haven’t gone overdrawn or in debt since I moved out (actually earlier – since July last year) and have become very good at managing my shopping and weekly spending budget
  8. I am learning to play guitar – something that I have wanted to do for years since I gave it up when Joshua was born – and I’m pretty damn good at it considering I’ve only been learning since June.
  9. I’m pretty good at this blogging mallarcky. I’ve been doing it for nearly 3 years (not such a fad then) and I earn regular money out of it. Awesome!!!
  10. I have lost 20lbs in weight since April this year! Dropped 2 dress sizes and fitted into a whole host of stuff that had been in the loft labelled TOO SMALL.
  11. I have the support of some wonderful friends. So they must think I’m pretty good/nice/worth being a friend to – and they tell me this when I’m struggling.
  12. I’m pretty sexy. I’ve been told time and time again when out that I do not look 38 – by women as well as men so it can’t just be them trying to get in my pants. I also still have the ability to bag a 24 year old guy (for the night – I wouldn’t have wanted anything longer term) so I can’t be that old and saggy!
Life is for living and enjoying. So that’s what I’m going to do.
Have you made an Awesome List! You should!!! Cos you are!
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16 Thoughts on “Self Acceptance

  1. Well done you Abi! You are awesome and you have coped amazingly well. You know who amazed I am at your strength and proud of you and all you manage. Keep going xx

  2. As long as you feel good about yourself who cares what other people think. But if you ever think of doing what that women did…let us know. lol

  3. That’s a really uplifting list of awesomeness! Lovely reminder to be kind to ourselves and focus on the good stuff 🙂

  4. Glad to see how positive you are, and yes you are awesome!!

  5. Well done to you for being so positive. I can’t believe how much you’ve achieved in such a small amount of time x

  6. To start, you don’t look 38 in your picture and if I look like you do at 38 i’ll be extrememly pleased with myself, whats your secret?
    Secondly, it suprising what a video can do isn’t it? I saw the same thing and it really made me think about my life, how I treat myself and how I feel about what other people think of me. I was on my “journey” (I hate the term as well) and the video really cemented what I was starting to think. I’m pleased it wasn’t just me who was moved by the video and I feel a little sad it took this for us to change our trail of thought but great at the same time.

    • Awww thank you for the compliment. I’ve had a few people say that to me which is lovely to hear. Real confidence booster, so thank you. And yes, it was an amazing video! Hope it was as meaningful for the lady in the video as it was for us!

  7. Sarah Anne on September 25, 2015 at 23:58 said:

    Loved this, you have a lot to be positive about!


  8. Abi, you have done so very well and you should be proud of yourself. I remember that when I came to the conclusion that I would be happy to be on my own for the rest of my life, I met Ross! And now I sometimes miss the independence I had when I was on my own! Good luck with the guitar lessons and well done on that weightloss. It is great to hear how you are getting on and thank you so much for linking to #PoCoLo x

  9. Well done girl you have done amazing so proud of you. Inspiring post and open and honest too. I love that. Thanks for linking up to Share With Me blog hop. I hope you have enjoyed reading so many fab other blog posts and to see you again tomorrow for another great round of #sharewithme

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